“Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, ‘I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.’ . . . So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.” (Genesis 29:18,20 NIV)
“So what does what I eat have to do with my relationships?”
Going into a relationship can be as fulfilling as a Big Mac or as scanty as devouring a Snickers bar. Let’s use a formula called the glycemic index to see why! (glycemic what?)
Everything we eat goes through a digestive process. After so many breakdowns, every choice bite is used to provide us with the calories we need to function. Each waking moment and every blink of the eye requires energy. But not all of the foods we eat are digested the same—not all foods are what they appear to be!
The glycemic index is a measurement used to track how fast or how slow foods are utilized. Proteins and fats have an evenly based glycemic index. The digestive process uses the calories from these foods in a steady way. So a Big Mac and fries allows a stable up flow of energy.
Breads, sweet drinks, and all sugary foods … are complex carbohydrates, digested quicker. The result is fast energy, but it’s used up as quickly as it appears. The instant gratification of a Snickers bar; the sweet, smooth chocolate enhanced by the salted peanuts, intermingled in a layer of caramel goes down fast and boosts your mood. But after the high, you’re left deflated, let down and outright stripped of ambition.
Moving slower in a relationship than your heart and hormones want, will allow for an incubation period. But love can strike you blind so you go for the instant satisfaction.
The Snickers bar relationship will peak and then fall, leaving you with a sudden void. A more thought out, well rounded relationship will go a long way, not letting you down in a tumult.
When you meet that perfect one, when the sensations of the right chemistry are upon you, make the right choice. Don’t throw away the opportunity of a lasting relationship for the quick fix of a Snickers bar!
Her face is full of pure disgust as I walk her back to the car. I failed, it all went wrong. I didn’t know what to say or do. I’ll never get a date again.
STOP! You don’t want this to happen, do you? Didn’t think so! Here are some clues for you guys out there to help the first date go smoothly…from a gal’s perspective.
Clue #3: Plan it out
When you take a girl out on a date, have it all planned out. Know where you’re going to dinner, how you’re going to get there, what you’re going to do afterward - everything. Have the cash or talk to her in advance about whether or not she’s willing to pay. Don’t wait until the waiter brings the check to realize you don’t have enough money and she needs to pay. Make it so she doesn’t have to think about anything but what a great time she’s having with you.
Clue #2: Communicate
Talk to the girl! Talk about things that interest you and that you are passionate about so that the conversation is natural, not pushed and awkward. Don’t expect her to make all the conversation. If she has to make all the conversation she’ll feel uncomfortable and won’t want to go out with you again. Ask about her too! Don’t spend the whole time talking about you: find a middle ground.
Clue #1: Be strong in Christ
If you are right with Christ and are walking on His path for you, it will show. Girls who have Christ in their lives like guys who have Christ in their lives. A relationship won’t last unless both people are “equally yoked” (have the same beliefs). Otherwise the differences will become too prominent and the relationship will fall apart.
I’m Haley Faye Snyder. I’ve lived in the same Christian home in Kentucky since I was born. I have one little brother and two loving parents. I go to Westport Baptist church and have my whole life. I accepted Christ into my heart when I was six and then re-committed my life to Him when I was 11 at Boones Creek Baptist Camp. (read more…)
If you are interested in some additional information on dating, keep reading. Justin Lookadoo and Haley DiMarco have a great book.
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Dateable. Are You? Are They?
Justin Lookadoo and Haley DiMarco
Passion. It’s the fuel for success, for dreams, for life. But too many teens focus their energy and passion on the wrong thing-the wrong person. Dateable pulls no punches in telling teens the truth about dating while also directing their passion toward a greater purpose in life. Teen relationships seldom last, the authors point out, so why should teens invest so much of themselves emotionally, physically, and spiritually? The answer? They shouldn’t. Instead, they can protect their hearts, live with excitement, and enjoy relationships in a way that enhances rather than detracts from those they’ll have in the future. With Justin and Hayley “telling it like it is,” teens will learn how to be dateable and how to evaluate the dateability of their latest crush. And they’ll get some much-needed perspective on sex, his/her communication, clothes, God-even “chick flicks.” Dateable also includes sidebars, quizzes, call outs, and more.