Rad Rev: How To Help A Hurting Friend

Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (NIV)


Grief is hard. Losing a loved one, a treasured pet, a house, or a cherished dream can slice deep. Even when it doesn’t happen to us, but rather to someone we care about.

Have you ever had your own heart-break as you sat and watched someone else’s splinter and shatter into a thousand pieces? What do you do when that happens?



  • Be there. Offer a shoulder to cry on or wrap your friend in a hug. Oftentimes, this will mean more to them than anything else you could do.
  • Pray for them. Never underestimate the power of prayer to impact someone’s life or heal their hurt. You might feel powerless to help them, but you can always, always count on God knowing just how to heal them.
  • Meet a need. Walk their dog. Vacuum their house. Take them a meal (or if you are culinary-challenged, choose a restaurant gift card instead). If you drive, offer chaffering services (when someone dies, family members sometimes fly into town and might need rides to the funeral, etc.).
  • Send Scripture. Through a tweet, a note on their Facebook wall, or best yet, a card or short letter, tell them you love them and that God loves them.Keep asking. You don’t want to push too much, but when the chaos smooths out and real life resumes, that’s when your friend will need you the most. The pain isn’t squelched after just a week. So ask how they’re doing or if they need anything. Often. It means the world to know you remember.

One of the things I love most about Jesus is that He saw people and never shied away from their pain. Showing compassion can make us feel uncomfortable, but it’s always worth shining Christ’s love into hurting lives.

Dear God, my heart breaks for ______ today. I know they’re going through a rough time and I ask that You heal their hurts and show me what I can do to be a blessing. In Jesus’ name, Amen.


Have you ever been going through a hard time and had someone blow you away with kindness?


Write out an encouraging Scripture (Psalms is a treasure trove!) on a pretty note card and mail it to a friend.

Visit this devo at Rad Revolution:


Rachelle Rea keeps a Smile Box full of notes, letters, cards, and tiny trinkets friends have given her that have touched her heart. Another box holds colorful note cards that are perfect for scribbling Scripture on and sending to hurting hearts. A college sophomore, Rachelle coaches gymnastics at her local YMCA.

For more from Rachelle, visit her atwww.rachellerea.com.

teen photo by: David Castillo Dominici


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    I so love this devo! Good advice for anyone–any age! Thank you, Rachelle, from Rad Revolution!

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    It doesn’t matter whether I’ve ever read Rachelle’s word five times or fifty, they always hit me with such force. I love her compassionate, giving spirit. She’s one of the kindest people you’ll ever meet.

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    Cindy, thank you!

    Debra, wow. Seriously, that made my heart glow. *Thank you.*