So, my name is Abby which is sort of funny since I am writing the advice column for this site. It seemed only appropriate to name the column, “Dear Abby,” and so it is. Please send me your questions and I’ll do my best to answer them for you. I’ll bring in the experts if needed and we’ll tackle each issue together.
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My best friend recently started wearing clothes that are extremely tight, in a very unflattering way. She thinks they look good, but they don’t. What should I do? -Sarah
I would definitely be honest with your friend before others start noticing that her clothes look like spandex, but not in a good way. Here’s the trick to all of this though; you have to tell her nicely or she might get pretty ticked. OK, so if I were you, I probably wouldn’t say, “Hey girl, you should definitely get the next size!” because she will probably take offense to that. Here is what I would do: School is going to be starting soon, right? So that means back-to-school shopping! Why not invite your friend over for some pre-shopping festivities?
When I say pre-shopping, I mean have her come over and go through magazines together, looking at trends and styles that you both like and dislike. You can also look online. Once you guys begin the pre-shopping activities, direct her to the loose fitting V-necks paired with skinny jeans, rather than the tight halter and short booty shorts. Tell her how great she would look in the V-neck and skinny jeans. Continue offering helpful hints as you pre-shop, but if she is still drawn to the tight, bootylicious outfits, you’re going to have to be upfront with her about it. Better you tell her than someone else, right? Plus, if she’s dressing in skin-tight outfits, she might even get sent home from school for dress code violation and that could really be embarrassing for her.
So, to recap, ask her over; pre-shop together; offer recommendations as you pre-shop, directing her toward more flattering looks; and lastly, be totally honest with her when she asks, “Does this look too tight?” It goes back to the old saying, “Honesty is always the best policy.”
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