Her face is full of pure disgust as I walk her back to the car. I failed, it all went wrong. I didn’t know what to say or do. I’ll never get a date again.
STOP! You don’t want this to happen, do you? Didn’t think so! Here are some clues for you guys out there to help the first date go smoothly…from a gal’s perspective.
Clue #3: Plan it out
When you take a girl out on a date, have it all planned out. Know where you’re going to dinner, how you’re going to get there, what you’re going to do afterward - everything. Have the cash or talk to her in advance about whether or not she’s willing to pay. Don’t wait until the waiter brings the check to realize you don’t have enough money and she needs to pay. Make it so she doesn’t have to think about anything but what a great time she’s having with you.
Clue #2: Communicate
Talk to the girl! Talk about things that interest you and that you are passionate about so that the conversation is natural, not pushed and awkward. Don’t expect her to make all the conversation. If she has to make all the conversation she’ll feel uncomfortable and won’t want to go out with you again. Ask about her too! Don’t spend the whole time talking about you: find a middle ground.
Clue #1: Be strong in Christ
If you are right with Christ and are walking on His path for you, it will show. Girls who have Christ in their lives like guys who have Christ in their lives. A relationship won’t last unless both people are “equally yoked” (have the same beliefs). Otherwise the differences will become too prominent and the relationship will fall apart.
I’m Haley Faye Snyder. I’ve lived in the same Christian home in Kentucky since I was born. I have one little brother and two loving parents. I go to Westport Baptist church and have my whole life. I accepted Christ into my heart when I was six and then re-committed my life to Him when I was 11 at Boones Creek Baptist Camp. (read more…)
If you are interested in some additional information on dating, keep reading. Justin Lookadoo and Haley DiMarco have a great book.
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Dateable. Are You? Are They?
Justin Lookadoo and Haley DiMarco
Passion. It’s the fuel for success, for dreams, for life. But too many teens focus their energy and passion on the wrong thing-the wrong person. Dateable pulls no punches in telling teens the truth about dating while also directing their passion toward a greater purpose in life. Teen relationships seldom last, the authors point out, so why should teens invest so much of themselves emotionally, physically, and spiritually? The answer? They shouldn’t. Instead, they can protect their hearts, live with excitement, and enjoy relationships in a way that enhances rather than detracts from those they’ll have in the future. With Justin and Hayley “telling it like it is,” teens will learn how to be dateable and how to evaluate the dateability of their latest crush. And they’ll get some much-needed perspective on sex, his/her communication, clothes, God-even “chick flicks.” Dateable also includes sidebars, quizzes, call outs, and more.